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0 In 2022/ Memories

Reflections on 9/11

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On September 11, 2001, I was a fourth grade teacher in Jenks, Oklahoma. I was preparing for my day when another teacher ran into my classroom and told me I needed to come to the office to see something. I walked in and saw several staff members encircling a small TV. We all stared at the screen in disbelief. What was happening? Did a commercial jet just hit the World Trade Center? And then a second one?

Why would this happen? What did it mean? Who would do this?

I was confused as I walked back to my classroom. My students began pouring in, so I took a deep breath, put a smile on my face, and tried my best to stay upbeat throughout the day, while so many thoughts raced through my head:

  • What was happening outside?
  • Were we we safe inside?
  • What would this mean for our future?
  • I’m getting married in two months, would that still happen?
  • Will people even GET married after this?
  • Is the world ending?

A parent walked into our class to take her child home. She quietly told me she didn’t know what was happening and just wanted her family to be together.

I did not share with my class what I had seen on the news that morning. I wanted them to hear about it from their parents, in the safety of their home. I felt that parents would know how much, or how little, to share with their children. To my class, it was just another day. To me, it was a day I will never forget.

After class was dismissed and all the kids were gone, I tried to find out what in the world was happening. I did not own a TV, a computer, or a smart phone yet. I had to find out what was happening through phone calls and conversations.

One of the first people I talked to was my dad. He is a pilot and used to fly for American Airlines. He didn’t have answers. No one had answers for days, weeks, and months.

Slowly, stories were shared, miracles were told, and heroes emerged.

Heroes like Todd Beamer, who refused to let the hijackers hit another building. Instead, he and a few others, fought back. I highly recommend the book “Let’s Roll” by Lisa Beamer. It shares Todd Beamer’s story.

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Another hero, Welles Crowther, also known as The Man in the Red Bandana, gave his life getting others out of the Twin Towers. Here’s his fascinating story:

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If you (or your children) are too young to remember 9/11, here is a short overview:

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Another fantastic book is The Only Plane in the Sky. It gathers the stories of many survivors and writes them in chronological order. It was hard to put down! I read the hard copy, then listened to the audiobook. Both were excellent and I highly recommend them to anyone age 15 and up.

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An excellent book for teens is Ground Zero by Alan Gratz. I read this book with my 14-year-old and we both loved it. This novel tells the story of a boy who goes to work with his dad at the World Trade Center on 9/11. You will experience what it may have felt like to take a journey through the World Trade Center and find an escape. It was a powerful book to read!

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I’d love to hear what you remember about 9/11. Please share your reflections and memories in the comment section by clicking on the little icon by the title of this post.

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Though we were all impacted from 9/11, I’m grateful that life continued to move forward. I DID get married two months later, and flights reopened so that we could honeymoon in Mexico.

American did not collapse, but grew stronger. I’m grateful for how our country came together to support and care for each other. It’s a day we will never forget, filled with miracles and heroes worth remembering!

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0 In 2022/ Book Review

2 Great Books I Finished this Month: August Book Reviews and Recommendations

We’ve been making lots of memories and spent most of the month outside, so I only finished two books, but they were great ones.


Here they are:

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The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver

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Rating: 9/10

Review: I loved “Animal, Vegetable, Miracle” by Kingsolver and wanted to read another one of her books. This novel is about a family who moves to Africa to be missionaries. You see each of their struggles as they navigate this new world – and discover how it impacts them over the course of their lives. It was a really well-written, interesting story.

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Everything Sad is Untrue by Daniel Nayeri

Rating: 10/10

Review: This book will stay with you long after you’ve finished reading it. You will laugh, cry, be filled with joy by people’s kindnesses, and be astonished at people’s cruelty. Most of all I think it will give you hope. It caused me to examine to my faith, gain perspective on a refugee family’s experiences, and learn about the Persian culture. It gave me new ways to pray for refugees in the world today. I recommend it to anyone 14 or older. This book is a gift to anyone who reads it!

What are you reading? Leave a comment!

0 In 2022/ Family/ Memories/ Peek into our Week/ Traveling

A peek into our week in Indiana

Ted drove us to indiana – he worked while we got to spend time with my relatives. Our kids favorite place to be is with their cousins. Together they fish, swim, jet ski, wake surf, tube, play ball, play games, ride bikes, laugh, sing, tell stories, eat, visit shipshewana, golf, go to dinner/lunch by boat, and spend time with grandparents. They’ve made some of their most cherished childhood memories side-by-side and I’m so grateful.

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Here’s what happened:

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The boys went wake surfing…

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And fishing…

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Tubing…

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And boating…

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They played lots of games…

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And ate yummy food …

They went golfing…

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And relaxed…

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They spent time with grandparents and great grandparents…

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They obliged their moms and grandma by re-creating photos …

And made the best memories together!

I’m thankful for our family who opens their homes and shares their toys and food with our large crew!

0 In 2022/ Book Review

Four Fantastic Books I Finished in July 2022: Book Reviews and Recommendations

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Here are reviews of 4 great books I read this month:

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What Happened to You? by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey

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Rating: 10/10

Review:

This book is outstanding! I listened to the audio book (SO GOOD) but now I want to get the hard copy and re-read it, underline, highlight, and take notes! 

Dr. Perry discusses the effects of trauma on the brain. The book is filled with real-life stories of how a person’s childhood effects who they and how they act, as well as how people recover from trauma. I even discovered new things about myself and why I act or react in certain ways. 

The book encourages us to stop asking “What’s wrong with you?” and start asking, “What happened to you?”

“What happened to you?” is not a faith-based book, but I love how Dr. Perry highlights the power of ‘faith’ and being a part of a ‘faith-community’ as one important step in recovering from all kinds of trauma.

I highly recommend this book to every teacher, counselor, law enforcement officer, nurse, and pastor.

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Let’s Roll by Lisa Beamer

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Rating: 10/10

Review:

The 20th anniversary of 9-11 got me thinking about the lives of those who were greatly impacted by that terrible event. I ordered this book last September and it’s been on my shelf for almost 10 months. I finally opened it up and read the ENTIRE book in ONE day.

The story is written by Lisa Beamer, the wife of Todd Beamer. Todd died on 9-11 when his plane went down in a field as he and a few others fought back against their plane’s hijackers.

As I read about Todd’s early life, he reminded me of my son Clark – and their mutual love for athletics and sales. I enjoyed getting to know what kind of man Todd was before 9-11, and what his wife’s life was like in the year after he died. I’d really love for her to write a follow up book about her life since writing this book. I wonder how she survived as a widow and single mom. I highly recommend this to anyone interested in 9-11.

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Waymaker: Finding the way to the life you’ve always wanted by Ann Voskamp

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Rating: 6/10

Review:

I had really high expectations for this book since Ann Voskamp’s first book, One Thousand Gifts, was my favorite of 2018. Unfortunately, I didn’t connect with this new one in the same way. In Waymaker, Ann shares the story of her marriage, her health, and about the adoption of their daughter. The stories aren’t told sequentially and she jumps around a lot. So that, plus her poetic-style of writing, made it hard for me to follow along and stay engaged.

In spite of that, there were some really powerful quotes in the book. Here are a few of my favorites:

  • Detours are the way dreams and destinies actually come true.
  • God delights in you, smiles over you, seeks to be with you, revives you with his kiss of Grace and can’t stop singing love songs because of you.
  • Even when I don’t feel it, I am Father-held, His everlasting arms around all my needs.
  • Lament can be tears that water new life.
  • God signs his inconspicuous signature everywhere: everything is a sign post that points to his love.
  • The purpose of reading scripture is not to become good, but to be with Goodness Himself. Not to get God to love you, but to fall in love with God.
  • There is a reason why God is called The Way. He makes roads you wouldn’t have dreamed of, miracles happen exactly where you never would have imagined. 
  • Marriages are fragile things, not an accomplishment to be proud of, but a miracle to give thanks for.

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William Booth by Janet Benge

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Rating: 9/10

Review:

This is a biography of William Booth, the man who started the Salvation Army. William was born in England in the 1800s. He had to quit school at age 13 to help provide for his poor family. As he grew older, he had a strong desire to teach people about God. His heart was for the poorest of the poor. First he began meeting their spiritual needs, but also found ways to meet their physical needs.

William Booth opened factories to give work to the unemployed. Government leaders toured his facilities and created laws for ‘safer working conditions’ once they saw how well his factory was run compared to others. Booth published articles, books, and traveled the world to teach and inspire others to help the poor.

Thousands of people throughout the world, became part of the “Salvation Army” whose mission was to meet the spiritual and physical needs of the poor. Some of his work still continues to this day.

I was fascinated by how much resistance William Booth and the Salvation Army got, mostly because it was ‘un-conventional.’ They seemed to be buffered at every turn. However, they kept moving forward, trying to find more ways to help those in need. The challenges didn’t cause them to give up, but actually made them stronger, more resilient, and even more effective.

Though William Booth started with nothing, he earned an honorary doctorate from Oxford, was lauded by Winston Churchill, and had friendships with two US presidents.

I was inspired by this book and the positive impact that one person can make in the world. Click here to read a brief summary of the social impact his daughter had in the United States.

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What have you been reading? Leave a comment!

Click here to read a list of my top ten favorite books of 2021.

0 In 2022/ History/ Memories/ Minnesota/ Things to do in Minnesota/ Traveling

Exploring Minnesota: A Visit to the Historic Fort Snelling

I’m not sure why I lived in Minnesota for almost four years without getting a membership to the Minnesota Historic Society or exploring the historic Fort Snelling. I didn’t realize how beneficial those passes would be, or what a beautiful place the Fort is!

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Fort Snelling is a fun and education field trip for your family in St. Paul, Minnesota. You will learn about army life, see live demonstrations, learn how they cared for the sick, explore the beautiful home of the commander, taste what they ate, watch how they made their tools, and more!

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First of all, the Minnesota Historical society annual family pass is less than $100, and grants your family (plus two guests) access into amazing spots all over Minnesota, including: the Mill City Museum, the State Capitol, the Minnesota History Center, and today’s focus: Fort Snelling!

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Upon arrival, we pulled into the gated parking lot for Fort Snelling. The parking fee is $4 for members, $6 for non-members. There’s a beautiful walking path along the Minnesota River up to the entrance of the visitor center. This area was recently remodeled. It has a small museum inside, as well as a gift shop and clean bathrooms.

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Fort Snelling Visitor Center

From there, we enjoyed a golf cart ride to the entrance of the Fort.

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The Fort is phenomenal. It was constructed 200 years ago and used until the end of WW2. It’s been restored to show visitors what life was like as a soldier living in this fort. There are characters dressed and ready to teach everyone about anything from laundry, to slavery, to fur trading, to black smithing! (Is that a word?) You can watch guns and canons being shot too, and food being made.

Some things to discover and explore:

  • The school house
  • The hospital/medical exhibit
  • The armory/weapons storage
  • Jail
  • Blacksmith shop
  • Dred Scott’s living quarters and how his time living on the base enable him to fight for his freedom from slavery.
  • Commander’s home
  • Kitchen
  • Archeology exhibit
  • Soldier’s quarters
  • Married quarters
  • Trails to the river

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My kids and I absolutely LOVED it. We learned a lot about the history of Minnesota and military life, and enjoyed the beautiful grounds. There was even a baseball game happening as we left. We hope to be a part of that during our next visit.

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Fort Snelling is very close to the Minneapolis airport, so if you have a layover – it would be worth checking out!

Locations, Hours, and Admission:

Historic Fort Snelling is open Wednesdays through Sundays from May 31 to September 4, 2022. Opening hours are 10 a.m. to 4 p.m

Address: 200 Tower Avenue
St. Paul, MN 55111

Admission is $12 for adults, or $10 for seniors and college students with ID. Children aged 5-17 are $8.

Admission is free for Minnesota Historical Society members, military veterans and family, native Americans and families, and active military and families (walk up only.) Tickets may be purchased in advance online, through the box office at 651-259-3015, or at the visitor center.

Website: Click here

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Here’s a peek into our visit:

Thanks for reading!

Here are more places worth mentioning:

Click here for a peek into our visit to Mill City Museum.

Click here to read our Minnesota Bucket List.

Click here to read: 20 Gifts Minnesota Gave the World

0 In 2022/ Inspiration/ Motherhood/ Raising boys

15 Old-fashioned ways to stand out – in business and in life

Ted found this list on Twitter, copied it to a word document and printed it out for each of our boys. After they read it, we talked about what stood out to them. We also discussed which of these we do well, and which ones we could work on.

I thought you might enjoy reading this, and perhaps you’ll want to print it to read and discuss with your family. Feel free to share this post!

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15 “old fashioned” ways to stand out in life:

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1. Handwritten Notes:

Handwritten notes have sadly become a rarity in the digital age. Emails and texts lack personality—handwritten notes exude a raw authencity that fosters connection. Use them for: Thank yous, follow ups, letters to loved ones…AND nice penmanship is a plus!

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2. Be True to Your Word: 

When you say you’re going to do something, follow through. Being true to your word builds trust and deep relationships—personally and professionally. The recipe is simple: 

(1) Say what you’re going to do 

(2) Do it 

(3) Repeat 

Your word is your bond.

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3. Be on Time (or early):

Take pride in punctuality. Being on time (or early) for your commitments is a clear show of respect to the other people involved.

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4. Good Posture:

Strong posture is a physical and mental unlock for life. It’s linked to a variety of health benefits, including healthier muscles and joints, higher energy levels, and more. It also improves self-confidence—and how others perceive us. Stand tall to stand out.

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5. Smile at Strangers:

It used to be considered common courtesy to smile and say good morning to people on the street. But somewhere along the line, it became “weird” to do so. Smile at people, say hello, give a warm head nod. It might even make them more likely to pass it on.

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6. Hold the Door:

Holding the door for others was a simple point of good manners taught to many of us as children. Sadly, it seems like a lost art. It’s a habit worth reviving: When you go through a door, hold it for the next person—smile and say hello. Small acts go a long way.

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7. Express Gratitude:

Life gets so much better when you really lean into gratitude. Create a daily gratitude practice—write down 3 things you’re grateful for every night before bed. Tell someone how much you appreciate them. Don’t wait to show gratitude until it’s too late.

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8. Help Someone in Need:

When I was a kid, I was always taught to offer up my seat for anyone in need. The lesson extended to other areas of life. It’s easy to do—and so important. Help someone with their suitcase, walk someone across the street, buy someone a donut and coffee. (Click here to read 21 small ways to make a big difference)

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9. Listen More than You Speak:

“We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” — Epictetus

If you want your words and ideas to be heard, start by talking less and listening more. You’ll find more power in your words. Talk less to be heard more.

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10. Say Someone’s Name:

Calling someone by their name is an easy way to build a bond. When you meet a new person, make a point to remember their name. If it’s a difficult one, ask how to pronounce it. Say it back in conversation so it sticks.

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11. Eye Contact:

Eye contact builds trust. When you’re listening, look them in the eye. It shows presence, focus, and respect. When you’re speaking, eye contact can be organic (to avoid being intense). It’s ok to gaze off to think, but use eye contact to emphasize key points.

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12. Apologize Effectively:

When you screw something up, be accountable and own it. Admit you’re wrong and apologize. All apologies should be direct and specific—acknowledge exactly what you did, why it was incorrect, and how it will be remedied. It’s the only way to move forward.

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13. Work Hard:

Hard work stands out in a world where everyone wants to call it overrated. Take pride in working hard—show up and do what you say you’ll do. Always look for ways to work smarter, but if you’re striving for great things, you have to work hard.

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14. Confident Handshake:

Handshakes fell out of favor due to COVID—some said they would never return. I don’t believe it. If handshakes are a trust-building part of your culture, take pride in them. Look the person in the eye, smile, and deliver a confident (but not hard) grip.

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15. Be Kind:

Kindness is somehow severely underrated. It fosters relationships, reduces stress and anxiety, and improves overall happiness. When you are consistently, genuinely kind, you become a magnet for the highest-quality people.

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Questions to consider:

  • Which are your currently doing well?
  • Which do you want to try today?

0 In 2022/ Family/ Motherhood/ Raising boys

How to Raise a Jerk!

15 ways to raise a jerk from TheParentCue.org

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Here are a few ideas to help you effectively raise a jerk:

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  • Protect them from the consequences of their own mistakes.
  • Make sure you do whatever they can do for themselves.
  • Keep them away from anyone who thinks differently than they do.
  • Try to give them everything they want.
  • Tell them over and over you just want them to be happy.
  • Convince them that they are more special than other kids.
  • Always take their side when they get in trouble with their teacher at school.
  • Always take their side whenever they are in a conflict with a friend.
  • Don’t give them consistent opportunities to help or serve other people.
  • Never require them to do chores.
  • Reinforce their prejudices about people from different cultures or backgrounds.
  • Make your relationship with them more important than your relationship with your spouse.
  • Rarely express genuine gratitude to those who help you.
  • Teach them to talk more than they listen.
  • Never let them hear you say “I was wrong. I am sorry.”

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I loved this and hope you do too! What would you add or change? Leave a comment.

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I use the free Parent Cue app because it provides simple ways to connect with and influence my kids. Click here to check it out.

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0 In 2022/ Peek into our Week

Peek into our Week (June 2022)

Here’s a peek into what we’ve been up to in June.

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Watch out world, there’s a new REF in town.

We are so proud of George and how hard he worked to become a soccer referee.

  • He watched about 8 hours of ref instruction online,
  • went to a four-hour class,
  • a two-hour training, and
  • took an intense referee test, and …

Earned his official “Ref” status!

He was super nervous about reffing his first game – but Ted went to observe and said he did awesome. He’s reffed a bunch a games in June, and becoming better and more confident with each one.

George even got to ref one of Paul’s soccer games, which was super fun for all of us.

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Paul finished his spring soccer season in June. He played with a great group of boys and their team was UNDEFEATED all season.

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Luke and Clark are in baseball. It’s been fun spending summer nights at the baseball field watching them play. Clark made the All-Star baseball team and crushed it! He hit the ball every time he was up to bat, had several RBI’s, pitched, and started the game playing third base (which was his dad’s position).

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Field Trips Fridays

Field Trip 1: The Minnesota History Center

I joined the Minnesota Historical Society so that our family could visit a few unique places in our state. Our first stop was the Minnesota History center in St. Paul. It was a fantastic museum with hands-on exhibits to teach kids (and adults) about Minnesota’s History. George loved the WW2 airplane experience. Clark liked making sundaes at the soda shop. Paul and Luke loved the tornado experience. I enjoyed exploring this new place with my boys.

Here’s a peek into our visit:

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Field Trip #2 – Fort Snelling

Our next field trip (with our Minnesota History passes) was to Fort Snelling. This place had been on my list for awhile, and I’m so glad we finally made it happen. It was beautiful and so interesting to get to experience what an army base would have looked and felt like 200 years ago.

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Field trip #3 – Tactical Urban Combat

The family that battles together, stays together.

Our family was gifted passes to Tactical Urban Combat in exchange for a blog post. We had a so much fun choosing a nerf gun and battling it out with another group. Clark helped us win ‘capture the flag.’

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We celebrated Father’s Day for one FINE dad!

I’m thankful that our boys are following in the footsteps of someone so kind, wise, strong, faithful and full of integrity.

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An Egly Boy Sleeps away

In June we sent the first #eglyboy to Lake Geneva Campground with a bunch of other kids from our church. He loved it!

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Wrigley Love

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A Walk Down Memory Lane

This sums up the personalities of Clark and George when they were toddlers. George was so easy-going and Clark was a spit-fire!
0 In 2022/ Book Review

5 Books I Finished This Month: June 2022 Book Reviews and Recommendations

I finished five books this month = 3 memoir/biographies + 1 fiction + 1 non-fiction. I share my reviews and recommendations below. I’d love for you to leave a comment if you’ve read something interesting lately!

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Taste by Stanley Tucci

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Rating: 7/10

Review: This book made me want to eat large bowls of pasta. I was hungry the whole way through. I started reading the hard copy, but when I saw that Stanley Tucci reads the audio version, I switched to listening to HIM read the book to ME…his voice…so good. The only reason you may want the hard copy of this book is to see the recipes. There’s a pasta/zucchini recipe that Stanley describes in the book that I’m dying to try. I think Stanley is a great actor, and LOVED him in the movie Julie and Julia, so I was looking forward to reading his book. However, it wasn’t your typical autobiography. He told more stories and details about FOOD than his actual life. He shared briefly that his first wife died of cancer and left him with three young children – but never went into any detail about this part of his life. He met his second wife (Felicity Blunt), at her sister Emily’s wedding. Overall the book was interesting, but I’d recommend his “Searching for Italy” series over the book.

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Davy Crocket by Janet Benge

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Rating: 9/10

Review: Another great biography about a man from history. I was fascinated by what life was like during that era. So simple, yet so challenging. I’m grateful for this glimpse into his life and how hard he worked to take care of his family, and to make America a great place to live. He died defending our country.

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I Feel Bad About My Neck by Nora Ephron

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Rating: 6/10

Review: I feel bad about this book. Nora tried to write a funny book about aging, and while there were funny parts, overall, this book left me feeling bad. If you are a Nora Ephron fan, what book would you recommend that I read that’s better than this one?

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The Book Thief by Markus Zusak

Rating: 9/10

Review: A unique story of a young foster girl living in Nazi Germany through World War 2. The book is narrated by Death, who crosses her path more than once, and tells the story of her struggles as she grows from a child to a teenager. I’m looking forward to watching the movie now that I’ve read the book, I’ll post my thoughts on which is better in my next “Movie or Book” post.

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Gentle and Lowly by Dane Ortlund

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Rating: 7/10

Review:

This book had extremely high reviews, so I had high expectation and thought I’d love it. While there were some beautiful parts, I found it a little dry and had a hard time getting through it. A similar book that was much more enjoyable to read was “What is God Like?” by SJ Hill.

0 In 2022/ Motherhood

How Parents of Special Needs Children Can Diagnose and Manage Caregiver Fatigue by Janice Russell

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Parenting is a tough job, and for a parent with a special needs child, it comes with an extra set of challenges. When caring for a special needs child, it is not uncommon to overlook your needs. Thus, you may experience parental burnout. You cannot give your child the best care when you are physically, mentally, or emotionally drained. Therefore, it is essential to know how to spot signs of fatigue and schedule time for self-care. If you are a parent of a special needs child, read this guide for tips on diagnosing and reducing fatigue.

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Diagnosing Caregiver Fatigue

You should be able to recognize signs of fatigue to take the appropriate actions to manage them. Check the following to assess your fatigue levels:

Your and Your Child’s Sleep Quality

How is your sleep quality? Do you go to bed and stare in the dark for hours, unable to sleep, or feel like you are always sleeping? Either of these experiences indicates fatigue. Adults need seven to nine hours of sleep. However, if you have a special needs child, they may interrupt your sleep. If this happens often, you will likely suffer fatigue with time.

Your Marital Satisfaction

If you are married, does your spouse help with childcare? If you have no respite or are frustrated at your spouse because they don’t help you enough, your fatigue levels are likely high.

Your Caregiving Burden

Does taking care of your child feel like a 24/7 job? Do you have time for yourself? How much physical activity outside of childcare do you get? You may have high fatigue levels if taking care of your child consumes all your time. In this case, you likely have no time for self-care, including wellness checkups when you are ill or visits to the salon.

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Managing Caregiver Fatigue

Here are some effective ways to manage fatigue among parents of special needs children.

Make Time for Your Goals

Pursuing your goals is an essential part of self-care. So if you have put your dreams aside to take care of your child, consider picking up one to work on and schedule time for it. For instance, studying for an online education degree could pave the path to your dream career and allow you time to care for your child.  

Improve Your Home Environment

Did you know that introducing some changes to your home can help you reduce stress and manage fatigue? Removing clutter creates a less stressful environment, allowing you to focus on your needs. The presence of nature also reduces stress levels. So, you might want to get a houseplant. 

Address Possible Hurdles

When you often ignore your needs, you may need time to adjust to a self-care plan. Sometimes, you may go overboard and burden your support system. Other times, you may downplay your fatigue symptoms. A support group provides you with people to keep you in check.

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Prevent Caregiver Fatigue

Child care should not cost you your well-being. Follow the above tips and explore more advice on parenting without burnout.

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Cheering you on,

Janice Russell of ParentingDisasters.com